When Life Gives You Lemons...
Find the problem
Sadness doesn’t rock up out of nowhere. Let’s be real here, it ain’t a spontaneous gate crasher - it has to be coming from somewhere, all you have to do is find it. Is it from the people you’re with? The environment you’re in? Or perhaps it’s your mindset and thinking patterns? Once you find out what’s causing the feelings of crappiness, try solve the problem (this is definitely easier said than done and it may be out of your hands to solve it, but you could attempt to solve the problem)- if it’s from friends/family speak to them or if it’s your mindset, try changing the way you approach situations (there’s a paragraph about appreciation I wrote here) or if it’s your environment, try and change it for the better.
Vent your spleen
Rants, petty talks about nothingess and dwelling on unsightly encounters is the foundation of my iMessages and to all my friends who put up with this, I am sincerely sorry. Telling your friends, family or someone you trust about your concerns and how you feel really helps to make you feel less empty. They can provide you with emotional support and can help you see the bigger picture of the situation. And let’s be honest - banter, uncontrollable laughter and reminiscing on memories of sentimentality with the people you’re close to or trust, makes you feel waaaay better than being at home by yourself and feeling gloomy. So go ahead, rant your heart out, first world problem the hell out of your vocabulary, talk about your innermost thoughts regardless of how bizzare they may be, just don’t keep it locked inside.
Try something new
Taking yourself out of your comfort zone and experiencing new things, helps you to discover new interests, learn more about yourself and see life in a whole new perspective. There are so many things life has to offer - different hobbies, cultures, places, people and so much more. You have to seek these experiences to find what intrigues you, gets rid of the crappy feelings and ultimately makes you happy. It could be as little as going for a walk, eating at a place you’ve never eaten before or learning a new language (and no Andrea, sarcasm and banter doesn’t count as a language). Or if you’re keen to unleash the inner dare devil within you, try a new hobby, travel or volunteer.
Find ways to relax
Sadness can suck as much as a rat tail, so here’s a few things which can help get your mind off the crappy…
- write a diary - not only is it a fundamental aspect of a cheesy rom com (cue the Mandy Moore song, pink fluffy pens and ‘teen heart throb’) but writing out your feelings helps you to understand more about yourself and take your mind off things.
- exercise - let the crappiness ooze out of you by letting it out in a cardio sesh, a relaxing yoga lesson or a brisk walk
- pump up the music - forget about the lemons and have some escapism through some tunes - my most relaxing tunes being anything by Sam Smith, Lana Del Ray & Disclosure.
And lastly, in the wise words of Hannah Montana "Life's what you make it so let's make it rock"
- Andrea x